A reply to STILLTish
Amazing work, Limpida. This is so important to talk about.
This is powerful and very much accords with what I've seen with my son and with what I've heard from other parents of trans-identifying sons. Very much looking forward to your next essay.
My brother (35, probably autistic, an unemployed writer still living at home) is in the early stages of transitioning. I don't think he's on Tumblr, but there's Twitter and web forums and he seems to have fallen for an ideology that is in complete conflict with everything else he believes. Calls himself an asexual panromantic woman. He never seemed feminine to me, though he's not into stereotypical masculine things either. Stereotypical software engineer nerd maybe. I don't know how to talk to him. How to make it okay. How to help. He's on hotlines according to his Twitter and he's growing his hair out, but he still just looks like a guy with long hair. And painted nails. I don't know what to do.
I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. It’s the major thing that turns me off as a female from the political/ideological movement of Feminism. The Marxist competition model is fundamentally a low-res view of the relationship between the sexes that completely ignores the reality of the evil women are capable of on their own. This is the Point that Tish missed entirely in her critique of Lost Boys. Recognising misandrist abuse perpetrated by women doesn’t mean ‘erasing women’ or the incidents of misogynistic abuse they sometimes suffer or that women don’t exist, the whole point is that they do exist and sometimes they are the malevolent bastards in the story.
In my own life, I’ve had my ass kicked by men in the context of martial arts and most of my closest and most stalwart friends have been men. I also spent most of my life in all female educational environments (until I got to uni and found the most male dominated areas of Humanities research I could find). I’ve been in dysfunctional friendships with women and it’s ducking exhausting and demoralising. I’ve had good quality relationships with women and they are definitely more work than my male friendships.
Blaming THE PATRIARCHY(TM) is the biggest cop out from Feminists for their own sins and capacity of malevolence and why I will never identify myself as a part of a feminist movement that has any roots in Marxist theory.
Excellent, intelligent analysis conveyed in a forcefully masculine voice. Please do continue to write more. I was never manipulated to join the transgender cult, but have witnessed several friends become victims to it, and am deeply disturbed by the assumption of sheep that sterilizing kids and making them lifelong medical slaves is in any way benign.