I wish somehow this could end up in my gender-confused 18-yr-old son’s newsfeed. It’s so well written, with so much care & understanding. I know it is helping young men who are ready for it today & hopefully others will find it when they need to. Thank you 🙏
I don’t think my son would have a positive reaction at this point. He’s young & his echo chamber (including school & the medical community) backs him up in thinking he is “who he says he is”. I try to point out obvious differences among the sexes in all mammals, talk about the importance of free speech and not expecting others to think the same as you, that type of thing. Good luck to you & your son. I hope all of these kids wake up soon.
If your boys are just about the age of 18, those kinds of talks are necessary, and you should keep having them, but they probably aren't going to be what sinks in that you were right all along, speaking from experience. They're going to hit some sort of bottom on their own and come to their senses (hopefully). But continue to be there for them, don't alienate yourself, don't push to the point that they leave, because they might not come back. My parents let me figure out all the detrans shit myself, and at first I resented them for it, now I realize they did me a massive favor by not holding my hand and telling me what to do (even though they really, really wanted it). This essay may not be for them, they don't sound like they're at the point where they're considering detransitioning yet (but if I'm off-base and it sounds like they are, maybe send it their way), but there are other essays I've written that might be more helpful, and other essays from other guys (and girls) who've been through this who write very well. I recommend Ritchie (or TullipR), Hormone Hangover, Some Nuance Please, Cut Down Tree, and Prude Posting to name a few, if you're not already familiar. PITT (Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans) also has very good resources for you and your children. I wish you both the best of luck.
Thanks - those are great resources. I’m familiar with most, but not all. I’ve written for PITT - it’s really an amazing source of comfort for parents - we’re not alone in this.
I appreciate your advice💕. We don’t talk about trans directly - it’s his journey and I pray he figures it out like you have. We’ll be here either way, but I hope reality wins. Thank you for putting your time & effort into helping others 🙏.
Considering the quality (and importance) of your analysis and writing on this topic I'm very surprised your essays don't have more likes. But anyway, glad there's a young man out there saying this stuff in the way you're saying it. I'd like to take you along with me to a meeting with my son's school heads; I get nowhere with them. As a supplement to my oft-repeated dismay, a bit of candid reality from you might startle them out of their foolishness on this matter. Might.
I'm vacationing abroad at the monent, but if you send me an email at romanianstray@pm.me we could maybe work something out. More than open to talking to school officials about this.
I wish somehow this could end up in my gender-confused 18-yr-old son’s newsfeed. It’s so well written, with so much care & understanding. I know it is helping young men who are ready for it today & hopefully others will find it when they need to. Thank you 🙏
I could have written that comment word-for-word. I am in agony worrying about him and what to do.
What do you think our son's reactions would be if we gave it to them to read?
I don’t think my son would have a positive reaction at this point. He’s young & his echo chamber (including school & the medical community) backs him up in thinking he is “who he says he is”. I try to point out obvious differences among the sexes in all mammals, talk about the importance of free speech and not expecting others to think the same as you, that type of thing. Good luck to you & your son. I hope all of these kids wake up soon.
If your boys are just about the age of 18, those kinds of talks are necessary, and you should keep having them, but they probably aren't going to be what sinks in that you were right all along, speaking from experience. They're going to hit some sort of bottom on their own and come to their senses (hopefully). But continue to be there for them, don't alienate yourself, don't push to the point that they leave, because they might not come back. My parents let me figure out all the detrans shit myself, and at first I resented them for it, now I realize they did me a massive favor by not holding my hand and telling me what to do (even though they really, really wanted it). This essay may not be for them, they don't sound like they're at the point where they're considering detransitioning yet (but if I'm off-base and it sounds like they are, maybe send it their way), but there are other essays I've written that might be more helpful, and other essays from other guys (and girls) who've been through this who write very well. I recommend Ritchie (or TullipR), Hormone Hangover, Some Nuance Please, Cut Down Tree, and Prude Posting to name a few, if you're not already familiar. PITT (Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans) also has very good resources for you and your children. I wish you both the best of luck.
Thanks - those are great resources. I’m familiar with most, but not all. I’ve written for PITT - it’s really an amazing source of comfort for parents - we’re not alone in this.
I appreciate your advice💕. We don’t talk about trans directly - it’s his journey and I pray he figures it out like you have. We’ll be here either way, but I hope reality wins. Thank you for putting your time & effort into helping others 🙏.
A beautiful essay. Thank you for this.
Beautiful writing. Wishing you the best.
Quality, beautiful writing, thoughtfulness, and wise counsel! Thank you for your dedication and honesty.
Considering the quality (and importance) of your analysis and writing on this topic I'm very surprised your essays don't have more likes. But anyway, glad there's a young man out there saying this stuff in the way you're saying it. I'd like to take you along with me to a meeting with my son's school heads; I get nowhere with them. As a supplement to my oft-repeated dismay, a bit of candid reality from you might startle them out of their foolishness on this matter. Might.
I'm vacationing abroad at the monent, but if you send me an email at romanianstray@pm.me we could maybe work something out. More than open to talking to school officials about this.
this is a lovely post. good luck!
Hi, another Romanian-American here. Born and raised in Romania. Nice to discover you. Good essay!
u will always be a woman
u will always be a woman
Well done!